Andy Frasco chats with Brett Newski about getting banned from three cities, epic heartbreaks, cocaine meltdowns, celebrity dating apps, mental health boosts & moving to Charleston to try to meet Bill Murray.
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EXCERPT:
Brett: I’m interested in your romantic life. Surely you must have those loneliness spells where you're like, “I need a lady, something’s gotta give here.”
Andy: I don’t know. I was like a big sex addict for all of my 20s, so I was having one night stands and what not. And now that I’m getting older, I don’t have one night stands, I’m too worried about the persona of the one night stand. I am a little bit lonelier I guess, I guess you could say that. So I distract myself with more things.
My love life is non-existent, Brett. I’ll hook up with a couple of girls, we’ll have a fling for a week, maybe they’ll fly in for a weekend. But the great thing is that we’re always friends after. I’m not malicious or anything. I think they know what they’re getting themselves into, and I guess we luck out and we spend more time together.
I’m trying. Maybe I’ll find that girl. But I get bored real quickly.
Brett: That’s an interesting point. In your 20s, so many more of your relationships end on not great terms, because we’re all just worse communicators in our 20s. So someone just leaves pissed off, and you never talk again.
But now, as we’re less blockheaded dumb shits, we’re better communicators. So almost all of my relationships are ladies I’ve dated and who I’m still friends with. And that’s a cool thing. There are girls who have stepped on my heart and crushed me, and we’re still cool, you know? It’s all good.
Andy: Yeah, and I’m like that too. There are some girls who I knew would never give me the time of day, and I tried, well, I’m not gonna be like, “Fuck you, we’re never talking again.” If I can have some sort of relationship with them, then why not? I’m not going to be with someone just to be with them, I like who they are, the things they’re doing, I’m a fan of them. So, if I can’t have them in an intimate way, I’d rather have them as a friend. I just want people in my life that I care about.
Brett: Yeah, I agree with you. It’d be totally different in my 20s, I know emotionally I’d not be able to handle being friends with someone I was romantically interested in…
Andy: Me too, dog! I used to get all bitter, and they’d find a boyfriend, and I’m talking shit to the boyfriend in front of them. Just being condescending. But that was in my 20s. Now in my 30s, I’m like, if that’s who you like, fuck yeah, I’m gonna support you because I think you’er a badass person. If you’re not attracted to afros and guys who are alcoholics, then that’s fine, go somewhere else I guess.
